Wednesday, August 22, 2018

The Lessons of Heartbreak


It is clear that a great many people are feeling heartbroken because of the news about how bishops and other leaders of the Roman Catholic Church in Pennsylvania covered up child sexual abuse of more than 1000 victims by 300 priests over a period of 70 years.

Heartbreak is an inescapable response to this situation. As noted by the poet David Whyte, “Heartbreak is an indication of our sincerity…and is [an] essence and emblem of care….  Heartbreak may be the very essence of being human, of being on the journey from here to there, and of coming to care deeply for what we find along the way.

What we find along the way of following Christ is that we belong to one another. Consequently, we will reverence, protect, and nurture each other, with special care given to those who are most vulnerable and powerless—children, elderly persons, the poor, and refugees.

Maria Popova notes that being heartbroken is a sign of maturity, a “psycho-emotional growth-spurt.” In the context of belonging to the Catholic church, this means that the laity will hold church leaders accountable for their actions and decisions instead of deferring to them and believing they will do no wrong. It means that the laity will take responsibility for being leaders in the church instead of relinquishing that role to priests, bishops, and archbishops. It means that we will do the nuts and bolts work of putting policies and practices in place to ensure that the vulnerable are protected and their needs are met.

Heartbreak, although difficult to experience, strengthens our determination to take care of each other. We must grieve over the shattered lives of victims and their families and the betrayal we have all experienced. Then we must act to create a church that is true to the teachings of Christ.

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